NCCA Meeting

5 November 2007

23 Attendees, including 6 NCCA members

Will Matthews, www.secondwindperformance.com
Click here to see Will's speaker notes

• What helps you to move forward?
  • Making a decision
  • Pushing aside limitations
  • Clarity
  • Shift in your core identity
  • Commitment to not fail
• What are the core challenges?
  • I don't deserve it
  • No time
  • Fear of the unknown
  • I might fail
  • I might succeed
• "Expanding the Glimpse" (Will's new book)
  • This is based on the concept that we occasionally get glimpses of what our fantastic life might be. Our course then is to expand on that, build on it, so that we can make in a reality.
• "We're in this life to take those leaps"
• What holds us back?
  • fear, changes, judging, comfort, priorities, society, evening news
  • what if something goes wrong?
  • excuses, expectations, perception of others, peer pressure, distracted
  • "border bullies" (gremlins)
• "In life you're either an example or a warning" [to others]
• Express your passion
• "We have 60,000 thoughts a day, and 90% are the same as yesterday" - is it any surprise that we limit ourselves?
• "The only thing keeping you from having anything you want is ... your story about why you can't have it"
• WHAT IF ==> AS IF
• Will did an exercise with an individual, to help him change himself to a center of unstoppable focus
  1. Change your physiology
     • straighten up
     • breathe deeply
     • this gives you energy and resourcefulness
  2. Change your focus and beliefs
     • feel unstoppable
     • powerful, confident
     • "We like telling stories because that lets us go back and relive the emotions"
     • What you focus on, expands
  3. Change your language and imaging
     • uplifting images are alive, vibrant, big, close
     • make it concrete
     • make it committed
• "When you're not following through on commitments it's because there's not enough leverage"
  • "Leverage" is a powerful mechanism of creating consequences for your follow-through
  • These consequences must be POWERFUL and PERSONAL
  • They can be either positive (go toward pleasure) or negative (avoid pain)
• Matching and mirroring, concepts from NLP
  • We are constantly filtering out information, we do this automatically and quickly
  • We accept information from people we like: those who are like us, or those with whom we have built rapport
  • If you match or mirror others, that will help to build rapport
  • Dimensions you can look at:
    • have an internal or external frame of reference
    • focus on possibility vs. necessity
    • focus on matching vs. mismatches
    • many others!

Will has CDs, his new book, and a newsletter.  Check out his website.